Mental Health

Are you ok is what

people ask

Whilst you hide your true feelings

behind your face mask

πŸŒ‘

You don’t want to be a burden or

seen as weak

So yes you answer even though all you want to do

is weep

πŸŒ‘

We all shouldn’t have to

feel this way

But have the confidence and support to have

our truthful say

πŸŒ‘

It’s time for the stigma to be gone

for good

And for mental health sufferers not

to be misunderstood

34 Comments

  1. scifihammy

    People expect us to say that we are fine, regardless of how we really are. And we are so used to just answering, “Yes, I am fine!”
    Years ago I met an acquaintance who asked, “How are you.” I replied automatically, “Fine thanks.” Then I added, “Well, my Mum just died.” So he said, “Then you’re not fine.”
    It is time for the mental health stigma to be gone, but at least it seems to be more in the open now than it used to be.

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  2. Holly G.

    Stuart, I absolutely love this poem. You speak powerful truths that we must not ignore. It is devastating the isolation and loneliness that suffering from any mental health disorder can cause. Being unable to express how we actually feel does no one any good. It’s no wonder then that people feel suicide is their only option in far too many cases. They wonder if anyone at all cares about their genuine thoughts & feelings.

    I am grateful for all the advancements we’ve seen in understanding & unawareness of all mental health matters. We still have a long ways to go though. Employers need to be more understanding. Spouses need to acknowledge and support in the tough times. Strangers need to be aware of just how many people are suffering in silence. How many lives could we change for the better if we all genuinely cared to hear an honest answer to, “How are you??” No more empty “I’m fine” when we’re not.

    Thanks for using your voice to help others feel not so alone. You’re awesome. Keep up the amazing work you do. Your voice matters! ❣

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    1. Stuart

      Many thanks Holly for your lovely words.

      I agree with all you have said. In my view we must all continue to use our voice on this subject. Even though I’m a lot more open about my mental health I will more often that not still say β€œI’m fine” except with a few very close people. I also therefore need to work on this.

      The more we all talk about this I think only good and progress can come from it.

      Many thanks again 😊

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      1. Holly G.

        I completely agree Stuart! I feel like saying “I’m fine” for so many of us has become a protection mechanism too. Empathy is lacking at the moment in most of our culture. For this reason, we only share our hearts with those we hope/trust will honor how we feel. I think that’s okay. Not everyone will care and that has the potential to just hurt even more. You know?

        Have a beautiful day, dear Stuart! All my best to you & yours!

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      2. Stuart

        Again I agree! Empathy does seem to be lacking nowadays (not on WordPress I may add!) or maybe it’s just I’m more aware that it’s not always there.

        It’s probably more of the latter I think.

        I hope you have a great day also Holly and thanks again for commenting 😊

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  3. Nancy Ruegg

    Few words, Stuart, but full of meaning–the best kind of writing, I think. Thank you for the strong reminder to tune in closely when we ask the question, “how are you.” Sometimes I ask it twice and strive for eye contact, as in: “No, really. How are you? Tell me.” It’s a privilege to offer a safe haven for sharing. And God blesses those who give a listening ear because “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35)!

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      1. jonicaggiano

        Oh I am so excited that I found you. You liked one of my post and I just looked at your site and I love your work. Your work resonates with so many. Your words are simple but beautifully and wise. What a Sunday blessing for me. Have a great day. Looking forward to reading much more. Love πŸ’• Joni

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  4. jillslawit

    Mental health has started to be higher on people’s agendas than it used to be, thank goodness. We suffer in silence and say nothing as we believe that everyone else’s problems are worse so why burden others with ours. Kind thoughts to you.

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  5. Anne Copeland

    I have suffered severe bullying and tormenting most of my life in so many different forms, none of them less than horrific. Today I have severe PTSD from when bullying got carried away and became assault AND bullying from at least 30 seniors. Today seniors, no longer able to get their Norco and other drugs from their doctors, support the drug dealers big time, for they can always get it from those people. I have one of my degrees in criminal justice, and so you can imagine that I was not popular in that neighborhood. I manage my life fine, but you are right and I love your poem. People say things without having any notion of what they asking, or for that matter, not really wanting to hear more than “Fine, How are you?” I realize that it is a feeble way of communicating but we could as well be ants touching our feelers as we pass by. Thank you kindly for this very thoughtful post.

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  6. BluePansies

    This is a very nice post! I also suffer from depression. And sometimes I feel like no one is listen or that no one cares. But I found something that shows that someone cares; sometimes he cares more about yes then we care about ourselves. May I tell you what this person told me?

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